Well, I'm not just referring to Ruby but also Lucifer, Michael, Meg, Alistair, Raphael too now - all of whom have changed bodies at some point, frequently after having their old one destroyed (which has happened to Castiel twice). On top of the dude favoritism it's also just inconsistent with the way all the other angels and demons are handled. Even when Anna comes back in the same body she has a reason to (nostalgia/human attachment) and there's an explanation given in the show of how/why she did this unusual thing.

Yeah I imagine that would definitely be a little uncomfortable. D:

Aw, your sadfaces make me sad. :/ I don't think the character allegiances are really that simple, but I was a little bit UM that apparently no one on production noticed what that particular scene looked like.